PRINCESS.......

Tick Tock.. Tick Tock... the clock's hand is slowly counting the time, excitement is slowly rising , pressure is slowly sinking in, fashionistas getting ready to light the town, paparazzi all set with their cameras  to get the front page news.. and the whole world will also be infront of their telly.. to be part of the WEDDING OF THE CENTURY... ohh... such a fairytale...


It is in every young girl's dream to be a princess or walk down the aisle..so this is something of both.... In  one way or another , little girls  dressed up as princesses and glided across the room wearing their crowns or dreaming to be wearing a long beautiful gown.. so  I understand what draws us to be part of this Royal Entourage.. We want to see the dresses, the guests, the fashion , the funfare, Grandma .. i mean the Queen... We want to be part of all this.... How we wish we were the bride.. not because of marrying  the Prince but because of the thought of becoming a princess.. even for that single moment.. until the moment when the credits roll up... leaving us sighing and in awe of all those who were part of this glorious event.. how i wish..


But do i really wish to be a princess.... How would I   be able to celebrate with so much extravaganza, mouth dropping expenses on the cakes, food, clothes,.... It so scary to think that I  could  spend so lavishly with all the calamity that is happening in the world... With these expenses, I  would be able to feed a country.... heal the sick, give education., I  would be able to feed hundreds of  young children... so sad to think how  all these expenses could be put to good use  for a country in dire need instead of a ONE DAY CELEBRATION ..... it JUST  has to be .... PERFECT FOR THE WORLD TO SEE... of course what bride would not want a fairytale wedding FREE OF CHARGE.. to top it off .  who can I say is really there to be part of this glorious moment of my life.. who is there to be with me and my husband to be when we exchange our vows...who are the people who truly want to be there and not just an obligaton to be there... so sad to think that all this effort are being painstakingly done not for us but for somebody else.. come to think of it.. it is not even our wedding anymore.. it is just like an event of the year that people wanted to attend... at least on those big events it is usually for a cause ... and not just to spend millions of dollars equivalent .. romantic sigh.. As a Princess, i have to put on a brave front and not be affected with the talks behind my back, have to put on a smile on my face , and stand beside my prince, glowing and beaming like how a princess should be..... I am not me anymore, all my decisions and actions, will be based on what will be good for the throne.. i am now giving up my voice.... for love.... Would i still want to be a Princess.. .. oh yeah definitely, my Prince can have his voice heard in the entire kingdom.. But at our home... I AM HIS QUEEN and HE WILL LISTEN TO ME... In his heart.. I RULE.. heheheheh....


Princess or not.... I still wish them the best.. ..all those who are walking down the aisle... that your life together be spent with love , respect and trust.. Communicate with each other, laugh with each other , cry together, have time to pray together.. Believe in each other ..but also have time for yourself .. because even though you are now one.. you are still two separate individuals.. And to be able to complete each other you have to be complete yourself... Marriage is a career that needs to be worked on everyday... Put some fun and excitement into it.. and when the going gets tough.. TAKE A DEEP BREATH and remember why your heart skipped a beat when you realized that this is the person you will love for the rest of your life...


CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL OF YOU!






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What is the best way to deal with people with negativity?

A question was sent by a reader regarding how to deal with negativity....

There are a lot of people in this world who think that they are way superior to others.They voice out their own opinions even when they are NOT ASKED UPON, they give their own advice EVEN WHEN THEY ARE NOT PART OF THE CONVERSATION.. and they ridicule others WHEN THINGS DON'T GO THE WAY THEY LIKE.... and for some reason these people believe that they are GOD'S GIFT TO THE WORLD....and when we come across them, they just make us want to GRRRRR at them sometimes, huh? But the good soul we are , we just keep quiet most of the time...

Through experience, i have come across with a LOT OF NEGATIVE PEOPLE, or a PERSON with  A LOT OF NEGATIVITY... and I usually deal with it with a smile.... and think of happy thoughts... oh.. cut the crap... the first thing you want to do is get back to their face and tell them a thing or two or three.. but in the end after all that energy you spent giving them what you think, you're the one who gets hurt from the things they said and made you feel, you're the one who got tired from all the emotions and hurt that you had to blurt out.. but what about them... THEY WON'T EVEN CARE.and everything you said will just go through their thick cranium and soon forget about it.. and they will repeat the same thing again at another time, in another situation.. Negativity is from within.. it is how a person looks at the world.. and they want somebody else to look at things the way they look at them. dark, ugly and lonely, no trust, no friends, no joy...Negative people will always find something wrong with anything..heck they will find something wrong with the word wrong, if you get what I mean.. THe best thing to do is DON"T LET IT BOTHER YOU... we cannot please everybody, no matter what we do somebody will always be there to criticize you, blame you or find something wrong... IT'S OK.. because you know that deep down you did somethig RIGHT! Always consider what is best for the majority and not what makes NEGAMIND happy.. becuse they will never be happy..  Surround yourself with positive things.. do the things that make you happy ..sing, dance , cook, read a book..Spend time with your love ones... draw more positive energy from them.... always try to be overflowing with positive energy, think of happy thouhghts, how blessed you are,  so that negative enrgy bounces off  like being  protected  inside  a force field.... You cannot change them no matter how much you want to but you can change the way you feel when they direct their negativity to you ..

Always think " I AM TOO BLESSED TO BE STRESSED." SMILE.. SMILE.. SMILE... LIVE A LITTLE , LAGUH A LOT....




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ACCEPT IT AND EMBRACE IT.....

Why is it so hard to accept changes when we know that this IS THE ONLY THING CONSTANT IN THE WORLD... We are so used to things we routinely do.. no matter how much multi-tasking is done it's a routine.. Same thing you do .. day in and day out.. and then comes that little pebble that will suddenly cause a ripple in our calm waters.. and soon will be a gigantic tidal wave that causes chaos... Change.. why does it have to happen.. why can't we just be  where we are right now? why?

Changes can be for the best and worst of us but accept it or not, change is usually  a good thing... it may be difficult at first ...I stand corrected,  it will be extremely hard and stressful......learning to create a NEW ROUTINE.. setting up a new pattern,missing the old things you used to do but as time goes by everything will fall into place and then the NEW  becomes the OLD ROUTINE.you will adapt to the new routine and learn to love it....AND  when we get so used to it then you know who drops in to say hi... CHANGE!!!

EMBRACE CHANGE BECAUSE IT WILL ALWAYS BE THERE, LIKE IT OR NOT!!


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WELCOME WORLD!

Today is my first day in this blogging world.... A way to express my thoughts, my dreams, my fears .. in short my LIFE!!!

Little steps each day... GIANT LEAP SOMEDAY..

Somebody cares....


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